Jennifer Barley

Free Preview Call: 7 Enlightened Tips on How to Lose The Thoughts That Are Weighing You Down

Ho-ho-whoa! 

It is that time of the year that we swear off sweets, put away the pie and make yet another resolution to get our butts in gear when it comes to weight, food and fitness.

It all feels so familiar, doesn't it? The cycle of weight loss and the determination that THIS year is going to be the year that it is different.  

Well, it truly can be different IF you are willing to do things differently. Instead of coming at it with how many calories are in this egg, how can I work out for 30 days in a row, how can I never eat chocolate again --- how about approaching it from understanding who you really are. True success comes from the coach approach to your beliefs around weight, food and fitness.

Please join me for a free teleclass where I will reveal my 7 enlightened tips that will change your thinking around dieting, weight loss, body image, food and emotional eating.

Details:

When: Monday, January 2, 2012

Time: 7:00 - 8:00 pm EST 

How: This is a call in teleclass.  You phone in to a conference line with a unique passcode and be a part of this teleclass.  

Cost: FREE (long distance charges may apply)

Everyone who registers for the call will receive an audio recording of the call as well.

I am super exited to share my tips with you and introduce a new way to really understand your thoughts around food and fitness.  Then you will have the ability to make changes that actually support you and your goals.

So -- what are you waiting for?  It is time to change your life.

Register now...by clicking here.

"See" you on the call on Monday -- it will be a great way to KickStart the New Year.

To learn more about me as the presenter, please visit my website at: www.jenniferbarley.com or if you have specific questions -- please email me at: jennifer@jenniferbarley.com

just plain love.....

I made a decision that I am no longer into labels.  We all have so many labels to help us navigate how and where we fit in the world.  If you are "this" then it means that I am "that" -- or if you tell me you are "abc" then I can use that information to allow me to understand you a bit better.  Some of my labels include: wife, friend, daughter, life coach, sister, former weight watcher leader, walker, bike, hiker, teacher....etc.

While labels have worked for me in the past in helping to articulate what I "do"-- I have decided I would like to focus more on who I want to "be'.

And if I could just 'be" one thing -- I would like to be just plain love.

Pure and simple love.

To give it, to receive it and to be it.

In order for that to happen -- I have to ingrain just plain love in to my being.  Starting with myself. My whole self.  It is time to get out of my head and in to my heart.

(Some people might call it a journey -- but I really don't want to put a label on it.)

The Closer You Live in The Moment....

the happier you'll be.

So often we worry about the past, fantasize about the future, stress about what will be, play the "what if" game -- that we take away our own happiness by not being in the here and now.

Think about your relationship with food.  Are you dreaming of the next meal? Regretting what you just ate?  What if you only thought about food when you were hungry.  How would the quality of your life change?

How much does thinking about calories, food, sweets, what you ate, what you are going to eat consume your energy?

How often have you said -- "when I lose xx amount of pounds, I will be happy" -- "when I get my eating under control, I will be happy"?  

It is time to be in the moment -- to cherish what is -- and to find our own inner happiness just as things are right now.

Motivational Monday

Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a permanent attitude. 
          -- Martin Luther King, Jr.

I say forgiveness starts with self-forgiveness.  In order to truly be able to embrace the concept of forgiveness of others, we have to embrace the concept of forgiving ourselves on a continual basis.

Many times, our inner critic, negative self talk, or whatever you want to call it -- is hard at work eating away at our self-esteem filled with judgments, opinions, critique, doubt, fear and worry.

How would your life be different if you actually used love, forgiveness, and self praise as the basis of your internal talk?

Why Are We Drinking Sand?

 Tonight is the start of a new book study group around Geneen Roth's Women, Food and God.  I always love when new groups get together to learn about themselves and one another.

In Chapter 2 of the book -- on page 32, Geneen writes: "Women turn to food when they are not hungry because they are hungry for something they can't name: a connection to what is beyond the concerns of daily life....But replacing the hunger for divine connection with Double Stuf Oreos is like giving a class of sand to a person dying of thirst."

Hence -- the crux of emotional eating.  There are many debates on the internet about the question --if you eat when you are not hungry -- is it really emotional eating?

I say "yes". 

When we eat because we are not hungry it can be to avoid an emotion or to prolong an emotion.  I do know that we are not always aware of what emotion is going on.  But until we are willing to explore what we are avoiding or prolonging, how will we ever be able to process it, understand it, or feel it?

Understanding emotional eating is all about connection.  Connecting our thoughts to our feelings to our actions.  Connecting to our true desires.  Connecting the patterns and the dots in order to change what doesn't really work for us.  Connecting to our deepest selves.

And to be honest, sometimes we would rather drink sand when we are dying of thirst.

What are we really afraid of learning about ourselves that we ignore the emotional eating?  What is better about being in denial than understanding who we really are?

Why it is easier to hate our thighs, berate ourselves, and wish we could live a different life than to connect with the life we have?

I have my online Women, Food and God Book Study, three week Tele-Class series starting Thursday September 9th.  It will be from 5:30 - 6:45 PST on 9/9, 9/16, and 9/23.  For more information, please click here.

Online Book Study Group - Women, Food and God Announced!

I have been leading a local book study group for Geneen Roth's best-selling book, Women, Food and God.  It is amazing all that we have learned, the discussions that were had, and the a-ha moments that were shared.

I have decided to offer an online book group - in a teleclass format - to continue the discussion.  Here are the details:

Three Week Book Study Group
Thursday Evenings - September 9th, 16th and 23rd
5:30 - 6:45 PST (7:30 - 8:45 CST - 8:30 - 9:45 EST)

September 9 - Principles: Chapter 1 - 6
September 16 - Practices: Chapters 7 - 10
September 23 - Eating: Chapters 11 - 14

Benefits of the Online Class:

• Receive weekly questions prior to class to use as a study guide to help you formulate your thoughts around the book concepts
• Expert facilitation for discussions to draw out your thoughts
• Common bond with others who are working on better understanding their relationship with food and fitness.
• Audio recordings of each class, in case you miss one, or just want to listen to the classes again.
• Support and guidance for where you are in the process.
• Free Report: 118 Tips, Tricks and Techniques to KickStart A Healthy Relationship with Food and Fitness

Cost for all three classes -- Only $38

Early Bird  Pricing - Register by August 20 and save $5.00 -- only $33

(Price does not include the book or any long-distance phone charges). Check or Credit Card Accepted.

To sign up for the class or if you have questions about the group -- please email me: jennifer@jenniferbarley.com

To review the book or to order it - click here.

Lose The Thoughts That Are Weighing You Down

Six Week Group Coaching Program -

Starting January 27, 2010

Jennifer Barley, Certified Professional Life Coach

Workshop meets: 1/27, 2/3, 2/10, 2/17, 2/24, 3/3

Santa Cruz, CA
Wednesdays 6:00 - 7:30 PM

This in person 6 week group coaching program is designed to help understand your internal thoughts, beliefs, emotions and actions around food and exercise.

Week One:        Explore Your Existing Core Beliefs, Your Core Emotions, and Core Actions re: Food and and Exercise.

Week Two:        Rewriting Your Beliefs to Support You

Week Three:     Creating a Vision to Incorporate New Beliefs

Week Four:       Emotional Drivers and How to Make Them Work For You -- Not Against You

Week Five:       Self Esteem and How it Effects our Efforts

Week Six:          Putting It All Together

This is not a weight loss program -- but a true group coaching environment that will incorporate interactive exercises as well as weekly assignments that will help you identify and keep the throughts that truly support a healthy relationship with food and exercise.

Cost for the program is $199 for the entire 6 week program. 

The cost also includes your own workbook.

Sign up by December 25, 2009 and save $20 -- only $179

Class size is limited.

To sign up for the program or for more information please email me at:  jennifer@jenniferbarley.com

Check or Credit Cards are accepted.

What Not To Wear!

"What a great pop of color at the toe."

Stacy London was in great form at the O Magazine conference last week.

(Did I mention that I went to the O Magazine conference and that Oprah was there?)



Stacy is the host of the TLC show What Not to Wear

where she helps fashion "Don'ts" become fashion "Do's".

I wanted to share with you the notes that I took.  Since there were 4000 women and 14 men at the conference -- this is mainly targeted to the women readers.

Stacy's Tips:

1.  Accent the smallest part of your shape -- either the waist or right above the waist.

2.  Use inspiration from others.  If you have the same coloring as Nicole Kidman (fair and redhead) wear the same colors that look great on her.

3.  Skirts are to be to the knee.  No minis.

4.  Size and fit is the most important.  You look larger if in baggy clothes --- and if your clothes are too tight -- people notice.  Don't worry about size -- worry about fit.

5.  Be age appropriate.

6.  Buy softer neutrals as a staple (navy, charcoal gray, chocolate brown)

7.  If you are wearing a v-neck -- don't wear a choker necklace.  Match your necklace with the collar line.

8.  If you are larger chested -- a high stance 3 button jacket is the best type of jacket.

9.  If you select a bigger earring -- wear a smaller necklace and vice-versa.

10.  If you have slimmer, longer limbs, accent them with a narrow sleeves and a shorter top to accent the leg line.

And there you have it.  Next week - I will be profiling another speaker that I say at the O conference.

PS: (Did I mention that Oprah was there?)